At the close of the trilogy, in the final chapter of Lost Rites: Ancestral Landscape, the 12 chapters of the book revealed themselves to have been tracking 12 Rites of Passage for a human lifetime and the 13th Rite of Passage I add is the waveform of Love / Grief that connects them all.
In my prayers and meditations it has become crystal clear to me that I am to journey with these 13 Rites over a 13 moon cycle of a year, starting just before Imbolc 2025 and ending in time for Imbolc 2026.
(Northern Hemisphere Imbolc = early February, for those in Southern Hemisphere it would track to start and end at Lammas)
As this clarity of vision has become sharper it comes with a breathless excitement in me and a dawning realisation that this has to become my own anchoring practice, and that my physical, mental, emotional, psychic and spiritual health is my absolute priority and that committing to put my physical body “in place” by going on pilgrimage on the full moons, I am laying my whole Being in service of this work.
Because I come from the mire of poverty, addiction, homelessness, bankruptcy and exile it has taken me a very long time to reconcile within myself the belief that what I have to say, bring, share, teach, learn and realise is really of value. But with the publication of the 3 books I have finally come to accept and celebrate that it is precisely because of these rough initiations in a cultural void without rites of passage that I have been bruised, burnished and thus polished to a point of being able to meet, in the Unseen, the Lost Rites as they press themselves upon our world, asking to be remembered, re-imagined, reclaimed.
I imagine that each Moon, the Rite will reveal to me and to our group what we Love most, and what we are grieving in the loss both of the Rite itself but what that Rite also represents.
If you feel called to join me on this 13 Moon journey through 2025 then you are likely to be sensing within you a gentle leadership, maybe an “eldering” (regardless of age), a recognition that community needs to be kindled and you are one of those able and willing to kindle it, you are self aware, mature and have the space and will to make room in your world for this inquiry, to allow yourself to be led. I sense it will be gentle, exquisite even at times, full of joy, connection and bliss but I also know we can’t have all that without turning and facing the losses and the blocks within us and around us to that Love.
There will be mourning. We will lament and we will lament together.
What you can expect?
- Online access to written Materials (Prose, Poetry and Art as Seeds for Inquiry)
- Monthly 3 hour Webinar (On Zoom, Attendance is important)
- Recordings (Online Recordings in both Audio and Video form)
- Community (Shared space with kindred spirits to share your process)
- 50% off the Poetry Book “Lost Rites: Lament of the 13 Moons” when published
At the Full Moon prior I will undertake a pilgrimage and journey into the landscape of Eryri meditating on the Rite of Passage for the month. I will journal, write poetry and maybe create visual art in some form and you are invited to join me, to share and pool what arises for you, I will offer my notes, journal reflections, poetry and art that comes from the full moon pilgrimage to the gathered a week before. We will then meet on the Sunday before or on the New Moon to explore, inquire and go deeper. To get a somatic sense of the Love, the Loss, the Rites and the Reconciliations at each stage.
Cost:
£49 per month subscription for 12 months
£499 if paid in full
£75 per webinar if paid on an ad hoc basis (access to singular webinar and materials – not the community or other recordings)
What is expected of you?
This journey is for the mature and self responsible; it is a space of inquiry and revelation; the online space will be well held with light ritual, it may well be immensely healing but it is not set up to be a therapeutic space – in joining you commit to weave this inquiry into your existing self care and spiritual practice, your existing therapeutic process and to remain fully self responsible throughout.
I, Alexandra, am bringing my own insights, inquiry and process as a spark, to ignite, inspire and to push the bounds of our shared understanding but I am not offering to take on any responsibility for your wellbeing.
January 2025 (Session 1) VOID
Date of Webinar: 26/01/25
Date of New Moon: 29/01/25
Chapter Heading: The Void is the Original Ancestor
What is Loved and Lost?: Unity, Indigeneity, Knowledge of our Oneness
Rite of Passage: Conception
State before: Formless
State after: Form
February 2025 (Session 2) HEARTH
Date of Webinar: 23/02/25
Date of New Moon: 28/01/25
Chapter Heading: Laying the Hearth for the Ancestral Conversation
What is Loved and Lost?: Communal Hearth / Safe Space
Rite of Passage: Birth
State before: In the Womb and connected to Mother via umbilicus and placenta
State after: Separate from Mother, then from the placenta
March 2025 (Session 3) INNOCENCE
Date of Webinar: 23/03/25
Date of New Moon: 29/02/25
Chapter Heading: The Collective Adventure rather the Personal Journey
What is Loved and Lost?: Safety and Comfort with Others / Belonging
Rite of Passage: Childhood (Beyond the Family)
State before: Small unit of Family / Self Taught
State after: Social immersion / Schooling / Self Consciousness
April 2025 (Session 4) AUTONOMY
Date of Webinar: 27/04/25
Date of New Moon: 27/04/25 (Ceremony)
Chapter Heading: Our Bodies as Maps of the Ancestral Landscape
What is Loved and Lost?: Safety and Pleasure in the Body / Autonomy
Rite of Passage: Puberty (Childhood into Adolescence)
State before: Child / Innocent
State after: Of Reproductive Age / Menarche / Hormones / Awakening Sexuality
May 2025 (Session 5) INDIVIDUATION (I AM)
Date of Webinar: 25/05/25
Date of New Moon: 27/05/25
Chapter Heading: The Path of Anchoring a new kind of Faith and Meeting Love
What is Loved and Lost?: Feeling Loveable and Loved
Rite of Passage: Leaving Home
State before: Adolescence / Agitation / Longing for Self Realisation
State after: Left Home / Making Own Way / Individuation
June 2025 (Session 6) RELATIONSHIPS
Date of Webinar: 22/06/25
Date of New Moon: 25/06/25
Chapter Heading: The Path of Discernment, Boundaries and Limits
What is Loved and Lost?: Boundaries and Authenticity
Rite of Passage: Relationship / Union
State before: Singular Self / Longing (maybe) / Seeking Mate
State after: Self and Other in Relationship / Mirrors / Negotiating Needs
July 2025 (Session 7) ACCEPTANCE
Date of Webinar: 20/07/25
Date of New Moon: 24/07/25
Chapter Heading: The Path of the Unknown and the Unknowable
What is Loved and Lost?: Acceptance (Perfectionism / Self Criticism / Control)
Rite of Passage: Maturation (Career / Parenthood)
State before: Parent / Carer / Entrepreneur / Worker is our Identity
State after: Defeat of Ego / Loss of Identity / Not Knowing / Directionless / Surrender
August 2025 (Session 8) SURRENDER
Date of Webinar: 17/08/25
Date of New Moon: 23/08/25
Chapter Heading: Leverage in the Ancestral Field
What is Loved and Lost?: Lineage of Ancestral Wisdom
Rite of Passage: Eldership
State before: Surrendered / Discerning / Sick of Bullshit
State after: Becoming a Matriarch / Patriarch / Elder / Teacher / Mentor
September 2025 (Session 9) WHOLENESS
Date of Webinar: 21/09/25
Date of New Moon: 21/09/25 (Ceremony)
Chapter Heading: Ancestors as Healers, Ancestors in need of Healing
What is Loved and Lost?: Wholeness (Brokenness / Collapse / Illness)
Rite of Passage: Endings
State before: Health / Fitness / Capacity / Will / Energy
State after: Disease / Decline / No Capacity / No Will / No Energy
October 2025 (Session 10) PEACE
Date of Webinar: 19/10/25
Date of New Moon: 21/10/25
Chapter Heading: The Essential Need for Atonement
What is Loved and Lost?: Peace
Rite of Passage: Atonement (Reconciliation)
State before: Conflict / Denial / Dissonance / Dishonesty
State after: Peace / Truth / Reconciliation
November 2025 (Session 11) GATHERING
Date of Webinar: 16/11/25
Date of New Moon: 20/11/25
Chapter Heading: Community Practices for Ancestral Healing
What is Loved and Lost?: Gathering / Collectivism / Community
Rite of Passage: Dying
State before: Order over Chaos / Foreseeing the End / Preparation
State after: Acceptance / Surrender / Ready
December 2025 (Session 12) REVERENCE
Date of Webinar: 14/12/25
Date of New Moon: 20/12/25
Chapter Heading: The Mundane, the Systemic and the Cosmic
What is Loved and Lost?: Reverence of the Mundane and Everyday
Rite of Passage: Death
State before: Breathing and Heart Beating / Life seeking Life / Chaos over Order
State after: Dead / No Breath or Heartbeat / Death Claims Body / Entropy
January 2026 (Session 13) FLOW
Date of Webinar: 18/01/26
Date of New Moon: 19/01/26
Chapter Heading: The Ancestral Landscape (Summary)
What is Loved and Lost?: Love as the Waveform
Rite of Passage: Grief
State before: Unspent Grief / Tension / Unacknowledged / Blocked
State after: Catharsis / Flow / Freedom / Truth
